Everyone has goals. We all have different things we want to accomplish and they vary for each person and at different stages of our lives. I remember being in highschool and my friends and I would go on and on about our plans to be married with one and a half kids by the time we were 25. We were all going to be pregnant around the same time, and we were all going be each others bridesmaids. Luckily life does not work out the way you think it will when you are sixteen, if it did I would be married to my first boyfriend… Turns out he is gay… ha ha. Thankfully though some things that you didn’t expect after highschool do happen. My lovely gay ex is now one of the people I love and trust the most in the world. He is a great friend of mine.
Once I graduated my goals changed. I was more interested in finding a full time job and making sure I could pay my bills than I was about finding someone to marry. I wanted to find a job that would be able to pay for schooling and I was trying really hard to figure out what I wanted to do as a career.
Now I’m concerned more about myself than I ever was. Marriage and babies have fallen far on my list of priorities. At 28 I’m much more concerned about what to do with my life. Am I happy with the job I have, how can I better myself to find a better one. Where am I going to live and how am I going to be sure I can comfortably live and afford life and bills, and still have fun and work to be able to afford a trip or two a year. I’m also very concerned about my health. My body is one of my biggest goals in my life now. I’ve been fat for a long time so I’ve always thought about it, but now that I’m older I realize that aside from my Mom, no one else is concerned about my life. I have to take care of myself first and foremost so I can keep living my life and achieve my other goals.
I’m not by any means saying that everyone should feel the same as I do. I have many friends who want nothing more than to marry their boyfriends and have children, and for them that is great. Everyone needs something to aspire to and if that is what you want with your life that is wonderful! But we all need to have a basic idea of what we want.
I can tell you that even this close to 30 I still have no idea “what I want to be when I grow up” but now that I realize I need to put myself first I know that that is something I can figure out. My goals for the near future still do not include getting married and having babies. I will worry about that later. I do want those things, but I’m in no rush at all. Years ago I would have done anything just to have the money to travel. Just to get out there and be away from home for a long time and explore. My love of exploration still persists, I will never stop loving exploring and learning new things. But it has changed, I no longer feel like my life will be a failure if I don’t live in Australia for a year, or teach English in another country, or spend 3 months wandering Europe. My life is not going to be worthless if I don’t spend all of it travelling. My goals are to lose weight and become healthy, purchase a home of my own, find a job that I want to have for the rest of my life, and continue living and exploring.
With weight loss I have realized that the biggest thing is to make attainable goals. My current weight loss goals include: getting more fitness, tracking my food, and getting to my 10% weight goal (I’m only about 7lbs away, I will have a more accurate number tonight after weigh in.). Keep it simple. My main goal is to lose at least 100lbs, but that is such a terrifying number that I cut it down to 5lb or 10lb goals, or goals about fitness.
Everyone has goals. Life goals, monthly goals, daily goals, workday goals, evening goals…. Goals goals goals… (Has the word lost meaning to anyone else yet?) Let your goals evolve with you and with your life. Things change in life and you have to continuously move with it.
Ok. Here is the serious business, in the next 2 years my goals are:
- To have been to Mexico and Hawaii (Oct and Nov this year baby!)
- To have purchased a condo
- Go to Disneyland at least once.
- Go to Disneyworld.
- Lose 100lbs
- Quit smoking
- Find a career that makes me happy
Goals for the next month are:
- Get at least 3 AP every day
- Go for a photography walk
- Build jewelry organizer
- No online shopping!! (this is an important one)
- Quit smoking
Goals for this week:
- Do Zumba or Jillian Michaels at least 3 times.
- Go for a walk every day
- Track everything I eat
- Get to bed by 10:30 every night.
- Wear makeup once